Is My Spouse Having an Affair?

by Mark Burkholder on February 25, 2012

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Use Spyware to Catch a Cheating Spouse.

Unfortunately, “Is my spouse having an affair?” may be a question people may have to ask at some point.

In fact, if you Google “having an affair” you will actually see that there are websites and programs designed to teach people how to have an affair without getting caught!

And yet if you search for statistics about this topic, it’s often hard to find any meaningful information because of the taboo nature of it.

In fact, in most studies, the actual data around cheating is very much under stated.

Affair Statistics you may find Compelling


• 22% of males and 14% of women admit to having some kind of extra marital affair
• 70% of women and 54% of married men didn’t know their spouse was having an affair
• 17% of all divorce cases are caused by infidelity

According to Janis Abrahms Spring, author of “After the Affair”:

• Extra marital affairs effect nearly one in every three couples
• 5% of affairs last just one day
• 10% last longer than one day but end before 30 days.
• 40% go beyond a month but end within one year
• 45% last for more than 2 years!

Trust Your Instincts About your Partner’s Affair:

Shockingly, 85% of women and 50% of men who believe their lover is cheating on them turn out to be correct!!

Keep in mind that due to the secretive nature of this topic, the actual percentages might be much higher since not every person participating in the study may have been honest.

The statistic which many people find most revealing is that nearly 70% of married females and 54% of males didn’t know their spouse was having an affair.

So the question one must ask themselves is:  Wouldn’t you want to know if your spouse or lover was having an affair?

Would you want to catch a cheating spouse and be able to confront them directly with full-proof evidence?

Figuring out if your Spouse is Having an Affair

If you really want to know if your partner is having an affair there are plenty of very quick and simple ways to determine this.

- Hire a private eye or detective  – This was the way people in the past could undeniably determine if there was infidelity in the relationship.

Yet today hiring a private detective isn’t necessarily a good idea. It could take a detective weeks to have the proof you’re looking for.

Most people have seen the show “Cheaters” and are careful to take extra precautions when they’re having an affair.

Your partner could be unfaithful with someone that lives hundreds of miles away and your detective isn’t going to travel great distances unless you have deep pockets.

-Confront your spouse. You could just confront your spouse and ask them if they are cheating on you but as common sense might dictate, this is not a good strategy.

They are likely to deny it and if anything take extra precautions including temporarily ending the affair only to resume it at a later date after your suspicions have subsided.

-Confront your mutual friends.  Sometimes there are mutual friends who know your spouse is having an affair or about to have an affair.  You could just ask them point blank if they know anything or not.

Unfortunately again this is not a sound strategy because often the person questioned may deny it to avoid involvement or may be the guilty party themselves.

In addition, if their loyalty is to your cheating spouse, they will often inform them behind your back of your suspicions so that they can take extra steps to hide the affair from you.

In fact, whether it’s’ confronting your spouse directly or by asking those around you, you’re only making it more difficult to catch a cheating spouse and find out the truth.

So What is the Best Way to Catch a Cheating Spouse?

You may want to consider spying on your significant other!- There exists a VERY effective way to quickly determine if your spouse or lover is having an affair.

By accessing their email messages, texts and other communications, it’s possible to catch a cheating spouse unequivocally and efficiently.

Fortunately modern technology allows you to do this without having to ever hire a detective or even tell anyone about your suspicions.

Getting this set up and going is relatively fast, easy and inexpensive compared to other methods not to mention far more effective.

There are 2 primary ways to spy on your significant other.  We also have another article that teaches you how to spy on your spouse

- Computer Monitoring Software
- Cell Phone Spy Software

How to Spy on your Spouse and Catch Them Cheating

by Mark Burkholder on February 24, 2012

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How to Spy on your Spouse

Relationships can be very challenging these days with both partners being so busy at work wand with other obligations.

Figuring out how to spy on your spouse is a question that sometimes one must ask.

A relationship can become strained over time due to a number of reasons.

The couple may not communicate to each other freely or they may not find enough time together alone.

This can lead to questions about if your spouse is cheating and what the signs of a cheating spouse are in the first place.

Often, a marriage breaks down when one of the partners starts cheating. Knowing how to spy on your spouse is crucial to finding out the truth before it’s too late.

Of course there are other subtle hints that can assist you in catching a cheating spouse.  Before you read further, you may also want to check for the 20 signs of an affair for additional details.

Signs of a Cheating Spouse:


Here are some definite signs of a cheating spouse you should be looking for.

•    Your partner has a sudden obsessive preoccupation with his or her appearance.
•    He/She shows a sudden interest in new kinds of music, foods or hobbies they never liked before.
•    Spends a lot of time online.
•    Your partner is touchy or is uncomfortable in your presence.
•    The amount of money that is normally deposited into your joint account starts dropping without a reasonable explanation.
•    Your spouse deletes all the calls from their caller ID (This is usually a definite sign of a cheating spouse)
•    Your spouse talks in a low voice on the phone or hangs up quickly.
•    You mention that a co-worker or friend is having an affair and your spouse gets nervous.
•    Your spouse sees a program about how to spy on your spouse and states it’s unethical to do that.

Find Out How to Spy on Your Spouse Efficiently:

Spying on your spouse is actually fairly simple to accomplish and can help you get a fair deal of evidence.   There are many “How to spy on your spouse” resources online including private investigators, books and other programs.

Yet the most effective method by far to catch a cheating spouse is to use some kind of spyware.

Here are some of the capabilities you will have if you use spyware to catch a cheating spouse:

•    Read the text messages on their mobile phone.
•    To get complete information about the calls made by and received by your spouse.
•    To track all the relevant data even if the spouse has deleted their logs or call records.
•    To locate the spouse’s cell phone position using GPS.
•    Track and read emails on their computer.

How exactly do you use spyware to catch a cheating spouse?

It only requires that you have access to their smart phone for about 5-10 minutes so you can install the spyware!  As you can see, spying on a cheating spouse requires little time, effort or any technical knowledge.

If you do not have access to their phone or it is not internet enabled, you can find out more about how to spy on your spouse using the stealth monitoring spy software for computers.

Spyware is a surveillance tool which allows you to monitor and record the cheating spouse’s activities on any computer in an undetected and safe manner.

You can easily track the activities of your spouse both online and offline.

Rather than stressing yourself out wondering if your spouse is cheating on you, why not take a look at the software that will assist you in spying on your spouse today?

We also have other articles that will assist you in determining how to catch a cheating spouse as well as other signs of a cheating spouse you should be able to recognize.

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